Most of the difficult parts of planning a wedding are ones that you know to expect. You know it can be hard to find a great venue, and you know that it might take some serious budgeting, but at least you know how to prepare for that.
As well as these expected parts of wedding planning, there will no doubt be a few unexpected bits, too. Here are some of the most common ones, and how to deal with them!
You pour your heart and soul into deciding on a guest list, putting together beautiful save-the-dates and invitations, and send them away – only to get a ‘maybe’ in return. It can be extremely disheartening, because you would reasonably imagine that everyone would be either excited to come to your wedding, replying with a big ‘YES’, or, if they are away or busy with something extremely important, they would simply decline the invite.
Unfortunately, it’s likely that this little unexpected occurrence will happen when you’re planning a wedding. In this case, give the fence-sitters a deadline for letting you know either way, and tell them that you need definite numbers in order to book the caterers and organise the seating plan.
The moment your loved one proposes with a beautiful engagement ring is one of unprecedented excitement, and one that you imagine will be followed by months of enjoying the time spent being engaged in perfect happiness.
While there is certainly an incredible level of joy and contentment that comes with the engagement territory, you may encounter a disagreement or two over the wedding plans. Whether it’s the flavour of the cake, or the band vs DJ decision, you’ll need to be prepared for a little give and take by remembering that it’s the outcome of the day (and not the little details) that’s the most important thing.
Many people love the idea of planning a wedding – even if it’s not their own. It’s possible that someone in your family or close circle of friends will reveal themselves to be this type during your engagement. They might start with small suggestions and build up to strong opinions, or they might take a front seat in the planning straight off the bat.
No matter when they start, nipping this behaviour in the bud is vital. It’s your wedding, and it should be held your way. Let this overenthusiastic helper know that you already have a good idea of what you want, and that if you need advice or a second opinion, they will be the first person you turn to.
You’ll meet new friends
Depending on the length of your engagement, there’s every chance that in the time between when you put on the engagement ring and when you put on the wedding ring, you’ll make some amazing new friends. We all meet new people throughout life, and sometimes they turn out to be the wonderful types that you will keep around for years and years to come.
If it’s too late to invite them to your big day, explain that you would love for them to come, but have already finalised the details. Instead, suggest a nice dinner or experience to do together in lieu of a wedding invitation. If it’s not too late, don’t be afraid to invite them along and let them know that the length of your friendship is not as important as its strength.