The idea of renewing your vows might seem odd – or more like something that people only do in romantic movies.
Here’s why people do it, when they do it, and how!
People renew for many, many reasons, but it generally comes down to the idea that they want to celebrate how far they've come in their marriage so far, and where they want to go next. Vow-renewal is generally a much more casual affair, but the difference tends to be that your children – and even grandchildren – get to attend and witness an official declaration of love in a ceremony they wouldn't otherwise get to see. Naturally, you may also have new friends and loved ones who you didn't know during your first wedding, meaning they can come along for the party, too.
Of course, you don’t have to have a reason at all!
When to renew vows
Again, the timing can vary greatly between couples. It may come at a special time, such as after a certain big anniversary, or it may come after a big event, such as the wedding of one of their children.
Some couples will renew their vows after a big change such as moving to a new country while others may do it after a health scare or negative life event. There are no rules around when you can renew vows, just as there are no rules around when you can get married, so whenever suits you is the best time!
How to renew vows
Unlike marriage, there are no official papers you need to sign or witnesses you must have to renew vows. Virtually anyone can ‘officiate’ the vows, so you might like to choose one of your children, a close friend, or even a bridesmaid or groomsman from the original wedding.
You can choose to give each other new rings of commitment, but these are not compulsory either. Essentially, all you’re doing is standing up and reminding each other of your love and commitment. You can use your original vows and add to them with a few stories from the past years, or simply start afresh, it’s totally up to you.