Many a nervous man has pondered exactly what his loved one would most like to wear on her ring finger for the rest of her life. White gold, rose gold, or pure gold? Solitaire diamond, cluster, or pave? Emerald cut or pear cut? Diamond or sapphire or ruby?
The options seem endless when it comes to buying an engagement ring, and even though she will no doubt love any ring that symbolises your love and commitment – it's still a big decision!
This is where placeholder engagement rings come in.
As the name suggests, this ring will ‘hold the place’ for a ‘real’ engagement ring. You can use it to propose with and your fiancee can wear it until you get the real thing. This way, you get to keep the proposal as a total surprise, while safe in the knowledge that she will get a ring she loves.
It can exist simply until you can choose an engagement ring together that she loves, or even until you are better financially placed to purchase the ring of her dreams. Love doesn't always wait patiently for you to save up for a ring.
In either case, buying a placeholder ring is much less of a difficult decision. There are plenty of rings out there designed with this in mind, such as simple sterling silver bands with a ‘diamond’ shape engraved on them.
Alternatively, you could pick any ring you like! You could propose with a simple, affordable sapphire or topaz ring, or even find one that looks like the real deal with a cubic zirconia gem instead of a true diamond.
One final option is to purchase a ring with a small diamond and propose with that.
Once you have proposed with this placeholder ring, you can set about finding the eventual ring that will take its place.
When you’ve got the real thing, there are a few options for what to do with the placeholder ring.
If you proposed with a small diamond, you may be able to use that stone – and potentially the metal – to create either her new ring or your own wedding ring if you’re having your rings custom made.
If you proposed with an affordable, pretty ring, you can just about guarantee that she will take to wearing it on another finger, or will simply keep it as a piece to wear for special occasions.
Another option is to hold on to this ring and keep it as a future family heirloom for your first-born daughter to keep, or even for a son to use when he grows up and finds someone he wants to propose to.
While placeholder rings won’t be for everyone, they certainly have their ‘place’ for grooms who wish to take their loved one by surprise with the proposal, but aren’t too sure about choosing the ring.