It’s a rare couple that can enjoy the company of all of their friends and family on their wedding day. Whether that’s simply because some are on the other side of the world at the time, committed to another event, or even have passed on, there will likely be a few people who will be missed.
Rather than focus on the sadness of a loved one who can’t attend, consider one of these five beautiful ways to honour them, wherever they are.
Bouquets and boutonnieres
The bouquets and boutonnieres are going to feature heavily during your wedding day, so turning them into mementos of your loved ones makes them even more special.
Use lockets to keep a photo of each loved one close by incorporating them into either the bouquet or boutonniere. Lockets add a lovely touch as they are charming and gorgeous alone, then you can keep them for normal wear after the day has passed.
When you look out into the crowd from the altar, you’re looking at all the people in the world who matter most to you. It’s a phenomenal moment, and if there are people who can’t physically be there, you can always ‘save them a seat’.
Set up an empty chair and reserve it with a framed photograph of your loved one. You may also which to add a note explaining why they can’t be there, but what they mean to you.
Mention them in speeches
Weddings are great places for speeches, and speeches are great times to bring up great memories. If you don’t intend on speaking yourself, simply pass on a note to the best man, maid of honour, or another member of the wedding party who intends to speak, and they can read it for you.
Your note doesn’t have to be long, but it’s a quick and simple gesture that reminds you and the guests of anybody who couldn’t make it.
As Australians are extremely keen travellers, it’s not uncommon that a bride and groom will have a collection of friends dotted all over the globe. It’s an unfortunate truth that they won’t all be able to make it, but that doesn’t mean they can’t at least watch the ceremony.
With the help of a simple laptop, Skype (and a reliable internet connection!), you can easily log them on so they can all watch, no matter where they are in the world or what time of day it is.
Memories on the menu
If your missing loved one has or had a favourite snack, meal, dessert, or drink, why not try to incorporate it into the menu? It could be anything from a love of the flavour cherry to a penchant for tiramisu.
Most caterers and bartenders will be happy to tailor their offerings to your needs, so consider bringing the idea up and see what they have to suggest. If you have printed menus for your dinner, be sure to make a note next to your chosen food item about why you included it.